My life is usually a fast paced mess of showers, dressing, washing, messing, cleaning, cooking, eating, playing, etc. It is full of kisses, both passionate and skilled and gooey and snot coated. My days contain many hugs, stories, and showing off of new skills. It is a full life, and often, a really busy one. Therefore, I do not always notice the small changes.
This weekend I was blessed to be aware enough to catch two small changes in my son. The first, a day spent finding everything funny and laughing. He has found things funny from time to time, and has tried out his laugh before, but Saturday was spent with Oliver laughing uproariously at everything that happened around him. It was as though he had figured out what humor was and was bound and determined to explore it. The rest of us were enchanted with his gurgling baby giggle, and enjoyed hearing it over and over again. Marlena discovered that she could make Oliver laugh by playing with her magnets, so she obliged many times.
The second change I noticed was Oliver noticed I was leaving for the first time and missed me for the first time. Now, he has missed “the Boob” before, and has complained mightily of its absence once I have returned. However, last night on my way to coffee Oliver looked at me, realized I was leaving, and began to make small whimpering sounds. When I returned, he looked over his Dad’s shoulder, made his cutest sad face, and reached his little arms out to me. He did not try to nurse right away or start banging on my chest, he just snuggled. He missed me, not just my milk, but me.
It felt so good to have evidence that we have a relationship that goes beyond care-taking. I saw behavior from my son that clearly told me he likes having me around, for me. His actions yesterday bespoke a new awareness, and while I am probably entering the phase of babyhood when my going anywhere without him means tears and fits are sure to ensue, I am still pleased and touched that he actually missed me.