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I am an artist, writer, jeweler, and a Spoonie. Before becoming a Spoonie I was a very busy high achieving attorney and advocate bent on saving the world. Now I'm struggle to redefine my life to fit within my reduced energy level. Some days are better than others. I have fibromyalgia, trigeminal neuralgia, and chronic daily migraine.

Pressure to do what’s best for you and your baby, too much for Andrea Peyser

The this article, Andrea Peyser, columnist for the New York Post, bashes doctors and nurses who support and encourage breast-feeding, likening it to a “Forced labor camp, where the uniform is half-nude.”
I see, so the medical staff in hospitals across the country are forcing women to work topless for unbelievable long hours in poor and dangerous conditions for little or no pay? Why that is just horrible! Where is this happening? We have to stop it!

Oh, wait, you just mean the medical staff is trying to help women do what is best for themselves, and for their babies? Shame, shame on them. Doctors these days should know that Americans don’t want what is best, we want what is popular, and bearing our breasts for anything other than sexual objectification simply won’t fly in this culture!

As to the benefits of breastfeeding, Peyser points out that a “Leading Manhattan shrink Dr. Shari Lusskin” has told her that “some of my colleagues believe the data is made up.” She then shakes her shame finger at the medical industry, implying that they are “forcing” women to breast-feed on paltry scientific proof.

Which is why I should jump on the anti-boob bandwagon when a journalist tells me that a shrink in Manhattan says some other shrinks in Manhattan think some of the facts on breastfeeding may be made up? (In legal land, the above sentence is double hearsay, otherwise known as evidence that would not be allowed into any court of law, under any exception, as proof of anything, due to it’s unreliability.) With scientific evidence like that to point to, how can we fail to switch back to the expensive, corporate sponsored, formula culture we used to live in?

The reason behind all this outrage? Manhattan hospitals are no longer allowing free formula in the take home packs sent with new moms. I say good for them. Despite Peyser’s convictions otherwise, breastfeeding is hugely beneficial, for both mom and child. (Breastfeeding facts)

Andrea Peyser, take it from a mom, breastfeeding can be wonderful. It helps you lose weight faster, allows you reasons to sit still and snuggle your baby for long periods of time throughout the day, and allows you to feed your child anywhere, anytime, at no cost. There is no forgetting your breast in the fridge. It provides a healthy meal for your baby whenever you need it. You don’t even have prepare it.
It’s true that it simply can’t be done by some women, for many reasons. I feel no need to cast shame upon women who don’t breastfeed. However, the fact that it is unpleasant or impossible for some women, doesn’t mean it is a bad idea for most women, and most babies. Breastfeeding should be encouraged and supported.

I think the problem with breastfeeding is that our culture has a problem with breastfeeding. Saggy boobs aren’t sexy to us, and using our bodies for their naturally intended purpose has become something to avoid, or supplement, instead of something to encourage. I applaud the decision to encourage breastfeeding. Manhattan hospitals get a standing ovation from me.

Since the invention of the kiss there have been five kisses that were rated the most passionate, the most pure…

And then there are the kisses you discover your 6 year old sharing with her 6 year old friend when he’s over to stay the night.
Monkey and Simon were upstairs, playing in her dress up trunk, like they have a thousand times. This time however, they were pretending to be married, because my darling child is obsessed with kissing.
She and I have had many discussions about how mommies and daughters don’t share romantic kisses, brothers and sisters don’t share romantic kisses, and that she is too young for a romantic kiss.
She sees kissing all around her. When we take her to see Harry Potter she sees kissing, when she watches The Princess Bride or Star Wars she sees kissing. Then she, being a method actor in the extreme, wants to see what all the fuss is about. Regardless of the conversations we have had about kissing, my daughter bravely forges ahead, to try out this kissing nonsense on Simon.
Why him? Because I am sure in a moment of idiocy I explained why you don’t try to romantically kiss your 3 month old brother by stating those kisses are reserved for boys, when she is older.
Well, Simon is a boy, and now, she is older.

The two of them in particular have had an increasing aura of suspiciousness about them over the last few months, and his mom and I have been keeping a closer eye on them, we just didn’t realize their playfulness and curiosity had gotten to the point of kissing!

Ack! Sadly, this means no more overnights between Ellen’s kids and mine. It has been coming for a while, this need to separate the girls and the boys, but it is the end of an era.

I now have a Girl. A Girl who knows which of her friends is a Boy, and is aware enough of the differences that she wants to kiss him. And lock the door to her room while she does it.