It’s been nine months since the final surgery that removed my uterus and remaining ovary. I have been getting more active, more energetic, better. Sometimes better enough to forget that it’s only been nine months. Often, better enough to forget that my doctor told me it would be, at minimum, a year before I felt completely better.
So I get busy. I work, I work out, I play with the kids, I see people, and the whole time I am thinking “Woo hoo! I am getting better!” I feel energetic and great! Even with migraines I feel miles above where I used to be.
Then I run smack into the wall. BAM!
Yesterday I hit the wall after I saw the doc for a nerve block for my migraines. I got home, blearily handled the kiddos while I waited for their dad, and then went to lie down because I could not keep my eyes open. I am not exaggerating. I could not stay awake any longer. I hit the bed and I slept for three and a half hours. Then I ate something, went back to bed, and slept ten. I am exhausted and distracted today, unable to focus for very long on much of consequence. My energy level is super low.
This has happened before. It’s like I have used up all my spoons, and have to recharge before I get any more. It’s not unusual, in fact I should expect it, but I never do. I did when I was super sick, when I had to spend all my energy just not screaming at the kids or Lee or crying all the time because I hurt too much to be a human being much less a wife and parent. Now that I am much better I forget how much farther I have to go. I get greedy and impatient with myself, eager to return to the levels of energy I had before all this madness started. Eager to leave behind the woman who watched the world rush around her while she lived in a quiet little room, too hurt to participate.
Unfortunately, the wall has no pity. It is relentless. I run into it and there is no running past it, no getting around it, no breaking through. All there is are days of sleep, rest, and the feeling that I can’t do anything. The feeling that I am right back in that room. The wall will not let me by until I have taken the space and time I need to recover.
So I dial it back. I spend less energy. I try to regroup and build myself back up. I hope this time I will have more energy than last, that I will be that much closer to healed.
That this time I will finally get completely out of that room.